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09-17-2001, 11:17 AM
Size matters?

Just that phrase is titillating. You see it on everything from billboard ads to irrelevant comments. It teases us and depresses us and sometimes strikes fear in us.

I have to say that I don’t believe size really matters. In the grand scheme of things, it is only a dick and to center too much of your life around it is not a wise decision. I became a little sad and concerned reading some of the posts from the younger guys that have fallen into a trap of having their self-confidence wrapped up in their penis as if it is the “measuring stick” of their self worth. Nothing could be further from the truth unless your head tends to hang a little lower than your penis because of it.

Size does matter.

It matters because a potential mate will sense it about you. Will sense it in the way you carry yourself, the manner in which you speak, and the way that you attack life in general, not by the bulge in your pants. Women are attracted by a courageousness of spirit, not a big dick. At least all the women I’ve met in my life are like that.

I have several friends who are massively hung yet they have drifted from one aimless relationship to another. Not always by their own choosing. Whatever benefits their giant member provided was not enough to hold onto what should have been important in their life.

I remember being 14 and at summer camp. We ate together, slept in the same cabin together and showered together. We had plenty of embarrassing moments together as well. Someone might be teased about having a morning boner, but not once do I remember anyone ridiculing another for its size.

Then one day on the last half our time at camp, a new camper arrived. He was forced to fit into a group that had already been established. He tried hard to be liked and became one of the guys pretty fast. Not long after he arrived, he confessed something to all of us as we sat around outside. He was ashamed of his penis and was confiding it in us so that maybe it would steel off any possible ridicule later. He was the only one who thought about it. I think most of us felt sorry for him. Looking back, I don’t know if it was because of the size of his dick or how it seemed to upset him. Later during a nightly shower I remember stealing a glance out of curiosity. He was right, his penis was almost infantile. It might grow later on, or it might not. But what stood out in my mind many years later was how it had affected him, enough for him to have to confess such an embarrassing fact in order to keep from being teased later.

The one thing I do remember is that no one commented anything about his penis and it never was an issue on how everyone accepted him.

This was not meant as pontificating, but as a gentle reminder to some of our younger members that seem a little devastated by what nature has given them. It isn’t what swings between your legs, but what is in your own heart that matters most. It isn’t the size of the lance the knight carries astride his white horse, but the knight himself.

Women know we are concerned with that size but that is our problem. Many will try to help us through it, some will use it against us, others will stand perplexed without understanding what it is that has us so obsessed. Except in the rarest of cases, it isn’t your small penis that is going to drive someone away.

“Size matters” is a bit of a joke. A media influenced poke in the side, a sideways wink towards what up to now we’ve hidden deep in our own little secret places. Suddenly, we’ve really begun to think about it because of all the attention its gotten. And with all that attention, then surely there HAS to be something to it all.

In the end, our size is really only an issue with our selves. With that said and in a spirit of fun and not desperation, let’s enjoy exercising and enlarging our penises! Just remember who we’re doing it for.

captainoblivious
09-17-2001, 11:49 AM
well said

dino775
09-17-2001, 12:53 PM
vector7

great post Bro!!!!!,,,all the young guys should really read it.
having a big dick is great but no girl worth while is going to stay for just a great dick the rest of you has to be great to.
So work for a balance don't focus your world around your penis.

Dino

09-17-2001, 01:47 PM
Vector 7 that is quite possibly the best post i have seen on these forums b4. I as a younger member havent be dragged into the media trap about penis size to the point of obsession but have seen some ppl on here who have and i hope your story can help them.

09-17-2001, 03:26 PM
I agree. Very well put.

I too am a young board member, who as everyone else, is interested in PE. Not because I want some excessive 8-9 to lolly around and show that I'm huge. But because I'd like to add an inch to what I already have for my own benefit and define my body so to speak. Me, just like many friends and people I know, like to work out, so that they can have a muscular defined body. That is what I want to do, as well as with my penis, so to speak. Happy PE everyone!

09-17-2001, 03:45 PM
Right Vector.

If we want to sit around jelqing and hanging etc, great - it's an interesting hobby, it makes us feel like we're accomplishing something, etc. But it's easy to get way too caught up in the importance of a big dick. I have never known a good woman who was really that concerned with dick size; I have known a few gross sluts who were. I have never gotten a woman due to the size of my dick, even though it's pretty long. I certainly haven't kept one or lost one due to it. Of course the best thing you can do to get women is to be confident, but from a purely physical standpoint -- shit, if you want to get them, work out and have a great bod, get a good haircut, project confidence . . .

Sizemeister
09-17-2001, 08:01 PM
I haven't seen this point stated so well in a long time. Good post.

Size

Seeker9
09-17-2001, 08:27 PM
Defintely a Best Post!

Mnemnon
09-18-2001, 02:48 AM
I was walking my girl friend's little yorkies one night, when a couple of guys made some snide remarks about my manhood. Meanwhile, every woman came up to me and commented about how cute the dogs were, making the little critters great

dino775
09-19-2001, 04:17 PM
MNEMNON

I hope she at least blew you after walking those dogs,,,,Lol"
Dogs are great babe magnets, before I was married I had a white English setter I used to bring it up to the park and that dog got me more sex than a bottle of 151 rum and a blender. yeah he had this really cool way of saying hello to the chicks he would stick his nose right between there legs "dogs know how to treat a lady"

Dino

09-19-2001, 10:51 PM
excellent post, vector. i think you're absolutely right. i've been full circle with penis size issues -- didn't worry about it until i was 22; didn't worry a lot about it until 24 when a woman made a comment out of anger. it was a comment she'd probably have made to anyone less than 8 inches. i sank into a pit of insecurity over it for about two years and then, somehow, worked my way out, thanks, in part, to a few very wonderful women. i've often thought that if i had been born thrity years ago a a comment cast in anger by an insensitive woman wouldn't have impacted me as much. i don't think it's been until the last five to ten years that the media has shoved the importance of size down our throats. i believe the public and media's openness to more risque topics and the economic, non-war-time luxury of the West are responsible for that. maybe one of these days we'll learn how not to find issues with ourselves when economic hardship and war don't provide them for us.

-oms-

09-20-2001, 10:09 AM
I really appreciate the response to the post and wrote it for myself as much as anybody. Funny thing was, it was not the post I wanted to write. I was going to write a much more inspiring post of a scene that happened between my wife and I after my first 6 weeks with PE. But after reading some of the posts, it made me a little sad what some of the younger guys were writing (although I don't consider myself an old codger by any means!) and the distress they were feeling over the size of their penis.

Also what struck me is OMS's post about having had his self esteem hit hard by an insensitive woman who used his size to attack him out of anger. Not too long ago, if something like that happened to you, you lived with it yourself. Who would you go and talk to about it? Now with boards like this, there is an anonymous support group to help you sort it out. If not, I can imagine that kind of thorn can imbed itself deeply and really start to fester. We have good imaginations when it comes to our dick!

Thankfully, I've never had the misfortune of knowing a woman bitter or angry enough to do something like that.

Now size is a real part of our society whether it is said in teasing or in absolute seriousness. We think about it more.

Personally, I thought all those web sites that were popping up promising a bigger penis were all a scam to capitalize on our hidden fears; the current snake oil for balding men if you will have it. I took a chance because I had heard how your ligaments can shorten over time and that includes the ones in your penis. We worry enough about size, just the thought of your penis shortening would be a maddening thought!

Boards like this whether you are a contributor or a lurker are a real blessing.