View Full Version : Perfect Size

09-18-2001, 04:09 AM
My girlfriend screams bloody murder every time that we have sex because I'm too big for her (She's small). Every girl friend before her, except one (my first, but that's another s) who had a cavern between her legs, would always tell "Easy Cowboy!". Yet, when I look down on my penis, it doesn't look so big.

My questions, here, are:
1) At what point, or is there a point when you look down and say to yourself, "Damn! That's a big dick" ?
2) What do you consider an ideal size that can be used on the greatest cross section of pussy? (I wouldn't want to have to be limited to huge holed gals)
3) What size does your gal want you to be?

09-18-2001, 09:26 AM
1) The size of your dick is a personal thing if u think its big enuff its big enuff.
2) I think we can all take a guess at it coz probably no one knows for definate but with my limited experience of women i would guess about 5-6
3) You shudnt worry about what size your gal wants you to be coz u shudnt be enlarging your penis for a gal but for yourself. most blokes have more than enuff for any woman as the most stimulating parts of her pussy r only 2-3inches in.

09-18-2001, 12:07 PM
Yes everyone is going to have a different idea about it. I have had a girl that was so tight it was like she was a virgin and I had to actually stop cause I was killing her, and others that were so loose I could not feel much friction at all. It also depends on if you like oral sex which I do. If you get too thick then that will be limited. Just take the cardboard of your double roll of toilet paper and put it in your mouth and see if you would like to do that if you were a girl. Also I would imaging it would be hard not to get the teeth out of the way. That is about 5.5 so if you were in the 6 category well I think you would have problems. But the bigger guys can comment on that. Also if you like anal sex, which I never tried and dislike the idea, you can be too big as well. Finally if you like to have sex hard and fast and go all the way in you might be limited if you are too long. On the other hand if you want to do other positions and take your time etc then that length might not be a problem.

Having said that, and in combination with what is realistic for me to gain, I have the following goal. Well of course for the visual thing I would want the biggest damn penis I could get, but I don't want to shoot myself in the foot so to speak in the process and limit my sex. I am 5'8" and like petite women so it might be different if you are bigger and like big women. So for me, my idea size is like 7.125 non-bone pressed, which will mean 7.5-8 bone pressed (any more is asking for special ways to have sex etc I think. And I think about 5.5-5.75 would be big enough. I would be totally happy with 7 non-bone pressed by 5.5. Addtionally, I also want a big ole giant head on it too, which makes all the difference visually and for sex. I am talking a 2 inch mushroom with a protruding ridge bigger than the shaft.

I would also love to hang 6 by 5 when flaccid.

Having said this, of course it is entirely a personal thing.


09-18-2001, 02:09 PM
You spend enough time on foreplay ? :)

09-18-2001, 02:35 PM

Girls can really expand there pussies they can get a baby out
My wife is only 5.2 and 108 pounds and I would say she has a tight pussy for a women in her 30's I can hit bottom without to much effort but let me tell you one night we were fooling around and I told her to screw herself with this big freaking cucumber about 9 inch's long and real fat and let me tell you it wasn't screams of pain I was hearing when she had this thing just about all the way wedged in her.
I think my perfect size will be 8x6.5.
Foreplay,,,foreplay, foreplay,,,,,lick that clit stroke that g-spot etc etc!!


09-18-2001, 02:48 PM
Agree with Dino,
8"x6.5" is my goal and (I think) the perfect size.
With perfect size I mean the size that would please the most girls. A few would think its big, a few would think its small, and the majority will LOOOVE it ;-)


09-19-2001, 04:17 AM
I have been having trouble getting the entire length of my posts posted when I reply. So, if this gets cut off, let me know what I am doing wrong. I do not have a ruler or a tape measure so, I cannot give you my stats. I can tell you, using house hold items, that I cannot fit my penis in a double roll tube. When I do a flacid stretch, my penis extends maybe a 1/4 inch or so past my double fisted grip. From what I have read on your board over the past year, I'd say that the majority of the members are shooting for 8X6. I would have to argue that 8" in length is too much, but 6" girth is probably the ideal for vaginal intercourse. Your woman would have to be a masochist to want anal with that girth, and oral gets tiring rather quickly at that girth. But vaginal is excellent!

09-20-2001, 02:52 PM
I have to agree completely with Dance2. I think the ideal size (for me anyway) would be ~7 x 5+. When I say ~7, I mean 7 NBP and 5+ means just a little greater than 5. I believe this length would be ideal for great love making in any position (wild and fast too) and easy blow jobs besides. This is the goal I'm shooting for - I've got an inch to go lengthwise and about 1/2 inch girthwise. My relaxed flaccid is ok with me (3 1/2-4"), but I just wish that it would always hang that way. This goes back to a previous thread about how to make it that way and I believe the prime factors here are temperature and nervousness. Good luck to all PE'ers.

09-20-2001, 11:12 PM
I would say 8-9" long and 6-7"girth.


09-21-2001, 04:08 AM
I heard a porn star complain about having to do scenes with the heavy hung guys on my favorite radio show "O&A" in NY (they're sydicated aroung the country). She also said that other girls that she had worked with had the same complaint. I also saw that older blonde male porn star, Randy something or other, say that the reason many of his female co-stars enjoyed working with him was because he was the perfect size. Not too big, not too small. Does anyone know his dimensions?

09-21-2001, 04:44 AM
You must be thinking of porn star Randy Spears, I've seen his @#%$ too and I've gotta say that it does seem to be a perfect size although I would think that a slightly bigger overall girth would help.

From what I have seen I guess his size to be about 8.25 x 5.8 or so, which seems to be the goal size of about 90% of people here!

09-21-2001, 08:41 AM
I think who they're referring to is Randy West, a guy who seems to have a 5x4.7 or so penis. Boy! if that's the perfect size, then I need to stop doing this (PE) cause I'm way bigger than that already!

09-21-2001, 09:33 AM
I think the point I would look down and say now that is a big dick would be around 8x6. This seems to be a popular goal size with a lot of people.

This size would also work with my girlfriend. We have an 8NBPx6.25 dildo that she really likes. The only problem I see is that oral sex would be really difficult for her at this size as she can barely get that toy in her mouth and certainly could not suck it long enough. I am willing to give that up to achieve the "damn that is a big dick" feeling since she can do things with her lips and tongue that drive me wild without sucking.

I would also like to achieve 6.5x5-5.5 flaccid. I think at that point a lot of people would say that is a big dick. While my girlfriend is the only one to see it hard any more we go to nude beaches some and that feeling would be great.

09-22-2001, 12:58 PM
Many of you guys have the right idea about this "perfect size" dick. There are advantages and disadvantages of different sizes. The last girl I was with would only give me head for a few minutes at a time. The girth was too much for her to really enjoy it, not to mention teeth. She tried to deep throat me, but couldn't, and even told me she had a sore throat the next day...so if you really enjoy long oral sex, girth of 6+ inches is usually to much for women to take for very long...anal is out of the question as well for all but the most experienced, uh, assholes... concerning vaginal, length can be a problem as well, if you enjoy pounding in all the way...almost any girth can be accommodated, but length of 8+ inches can be a problem for some women...there are certain positions that are just too painful to be enjoyed...consider this when thinking about a "perfect size"....you may want a 8+ incher, but I can tell you from experience, you will be limited to what you can do with it...


09-22-2001, 03:14 PM
Hugh is right on the money. We have to consider well what our goals are, because once we achieve them, there is no turning back. There's nothing like having a woman swallow your bone to the pubes, or slam-@#%$ her once in a while. Some may want to deviate a little and get some anal action, sliding your rod up to the balls in that tight hole. Certain positions will no longer be able to be enjoyed by yourself. What you will be hearing a lot is, "Cum, Baby" as she tries to shorten her ordeal, and you'll be getting less sex in the long run.
Hugh says 8" is too much, and my opinion is that 6" is not optimum. Let's re-evaluate 8 X 6.

09-22-2001, 03:32 PM
Hmm, well to chime in my "two cents" worth. I am currently at 7x6 non bone pressed erect size and my girlfriend loves it. I'm still aiming for around 8.5 to 9 on length as a long term goal. I dont know if I want too much more girth but, I'd take another 1/2". She doesnt complain or seem to have trouble with oral. My ex wife did though and that was when I was 5.5 to 5.75 on girth. It depends on the woman. As far as girth for anal goes, yes that can be an issue but, that also depends on the woman. My current girlfriend (when we get in the mood for anal which is usually about once a month) has no problem taking me once she's good and relaxed. That usually means at least one good orgasm. SO, whats the bottom line (in my opinion)?? It mostly depends on your lover and what they can accomodate. Not all men/women are the same and I honestly dont think "genetics" has much to do with it. I think most if not all women can be tight as well. Thats usually up to them though. Most any woman can do kegels. My girlfriend does them and can voluntarily contract her PC muscles during sex. Man, thats great too! Funny thing is, it didnt come up untill after one sex session we had a few weeks ago when I noticed her doing it during a climax. I asked her if she was doing it on purpose and she told me basically she had read about "those exercises" in some womans' magazine. See, knowledge on just about anything can be obtained if you look for it. I'm in this "venture" we know as Penis Enlargement for myself. I was a little more obsessive a year ago about it than I am now but, now its mostly a hobby. If I have time to do a good workout great, but, if not I dont get emotionally distraught and feel bad about missing a "workout". I cant wait to get my Penistretcher though, which I'm ordering next week. Gonna use that to do my day stretching while at my part time job. Ok, thats all for now folks.

09-22-2001, 08:32 PM
I don't mean to discourage anyone. If you're goal is 10+ inches, I'll be the first one to cheer you on. I just wanted to relay some of my experiences regarding size. I have had women who wanted it all and others don't or won't or can't take it all...SWM is exactly right, it DOES totally depend on the woman...


09-23-2001, 12:05 PM
agreed that it depends on the woman also.

My idea of the perfect size would be 7x6 , it seams like a reasonable comprise b/n average and huge

09-23-2001, 10:27 PM
Regarding vaginal sex, asians have a term for couples who are fortunate enough to be perfectly "fitted" to each other size-wise. I don't recall what that term is, but it enforces the importance of a good "match."

My girlfriend says my 7x5 penis is "perfect" size-wise. I asked her what an even more perfect size would be and she laughed "I don't know - 9 inches" Ha Ha!! I do know for sure that she always comes more and better when I have my best erections.

09-23-2001, 11:27 PM
I agree that 7x6 is the "perfect size" in fact that is my goal.

Well... 7x7 would be cool... kind of weird though.