Wife/GF reaction to PE

Hi,

As a beginner in PE, I'm trying to conceal my ambitions from my wife. I'm very open to my wife and never try to hide anything from her, but somehow I don't feel too easy about announcing "Honey, I'm going into the other room to make my dick bigger..."

Or should I?

I'm curious as to what the reactions have been from PEers partners when they were told (or found out) what they were doing.

[Guiri]

About a week ago there was a thread about this, where a WIFE wrote in giving her point of view. Her husband had been hiding it from her, and this fact alone angered her. I personally haven't told my wife...want her to be the one who notices (have caught her look at my larger flaccid strangely but no comment has yet been made). Others feel it should be out in the open from the beginning. Try to find that thread...it made for interesting reading.

[bona bona]

I live with my girlfriend and I am totally open about it. She is supportive, I encourage her with her current diet and she does the rah rah with my pe. we both bitch about platieaus etc.

I personally like some privace when I do my routine, but it is a whole lot easier to tell the gf, I off the the bedroom for a half an hour and would like some privacy. quite frankly, I think if I had to do it in secret, I don't think I could stick it out with the tiem and dedication this stuff takes out of you.

just my two or three cents, pax bb

[biggerandbetter]

I say tell your wife, because even though what you're doing
is ok, a secret can be a bad thing. If anything, hopefully she
would be encouraging and support. But I wouldn't quite be
blunt and say it the way you suggested. Perhaps you could
just find some mellow time when you two are just chatting
alone and say:

You: "Honey, I wanted to tell you about a special exercize program,
and not only will it benefit me, but you as well!"

Her: "Oh really dear? What is that?"

You: "I've started an all-natural penis enlargement program. Perhaps
you've already noticed a difference. If you'd like to see what I do,
I would be happy to show you, and if you want, you can even help.
What do you think?"

And the rest is yet to happen.

Hope that helps. I think your effort at openness should go far. If
she's your wife, she should love you no matter what and probably
won't reject you or the idea.

I hope it goes well for you! I know it's a little scary. I haven't
mentioned it to my fiancee yet, though most of my PE work was
years ago before I met her. But I do like to do a "maintenance
routine" and I want her to know at some point. For now, it's
not really a "secret", but when we get married, I'd like her to
know.

Mark

[Stretchin]

I told my wife from the very start. Hell I wasn't about to try to hide the fact I was hanging 10 lbs off my johnson!
She's not upset or offended by it in any way. She has also felt the benefits.

S

Dude,

I'm saying you fuck with her head a little and have some fun with it because you're only gonna get one memory out of this, so make it good. Here are some ideas you say to her...These are basically distractions where she will think of something other than what's on your mind and when you finally tell her it will go good enough.

1. Babe, we've got a problem...I've got some kind of discharge and maybe you should get checked out.
2. Honey, have you ever heard of anal warts?
3. Woman, if I had a 4" cock would you still love me?
4. Sugar, my sister (or somebody she knows good) just told Donny (possibly a significant male other to the sister) that she's gonna get a boob job. How do you feel about that?
5. (during sex) Wow! Either your little snatch is getting tighter or my cock is getting bigger!
6. Can we talk about anything? Well, I never told you about my 2 kids from my ex-wife did I?
7. Have you ever heard the phrase "3 way?" If you ever did that, and this is just a hypothetical question of course, would you prefer another woman or another guy?

I think you get the idea. Just remember, once you start talking, you have to keep going until she finally says "Well, we'll see..." My advice though is to get a few drinks in her before you tell her. She's gonna say "You don't need to do that, you're fine just the way you are." This is one of the lies told in their female manual they are given by their mothers when they turn 16. Just ask Pumpin8, he'll back me on that one. Just messin' with you Pumpin, you owe me one.

TC

[Hugeness]

Hey, I can't find the post fromt he wife that found out about PE. Where is it? Can anyone help?

By the way, I have kinda told my babe in a round-about way. I mention that I do kegels for penis health and showed her what jelqing is also (for penis health). She thinks I am nuts and says that I am too big already. I do PE for me because I like a better penis, not because she wants more.

Hugeness.

Here is the link to the wife's post - it is good reading. You can also find it in Best Posts.

pub14.ezboard.com/fpeforu...=110.topic (http://pub14.ezboard.com/fpeforumsbestposts.showMessage?topicID=110.topic)

[Dance]

You can also tell her it is for overall penis health and will make you a better lover long term. This might be more palatable for her.
Dance

[dino775]

I could never tell my wife about PE most of the time she is very cool but every month PMS set's in and the gates of hell open up and my wife is replaced with the evil phycso bitch from hell who looks for anything to bitch about and she would turn PE into something bad I could just here it, you spend 40 min a day jerking your dick instead of spending that time with your wife or kids. And than the real scary part would be in a couple of days it would be all fine and PE would be great. So i think I will just keep it to myself.
And a warning to all you guys who have never been through a divorce or nasty break up any thing you have ever told them will be used as a weapon against you.
So remember that sweet soft beauty next to you can turn into the nastiest bitch on the planet if you piss them off enough.

Dino

[titanium30]

If she's not supportive your fucked.

titanium

Just want to say (from a female's point of view) that keeping this from your wife/GF from my opinion is a bad idea. Hubby just informed me today that he wants to try doing this which is perfectly fine with me. Yes, I'm happy with the way he is and very satisfied, but if this is something he wants, then so be it. I would definitely feel deceived to some extent if he told me way after the fact. I like to know that he trusts me and can confide anything to me without hesitation no matter what the subject is. I feel "honored" each time he confides something personal to me. I myself have been on a breast enlargement program and he's the first one I told that I wanted to do it. He's been very supportive and so will I with this endeavor.

[dino775]

He's a lucky man to have a you for his wife you sound wonderful

Dino

I say tell her, but only if she is the accepting type. For me it was easy, when she and I were younger we did rec drugs like Coke, so she knows not to be condescending. She also accepted the steroids, so I knew she would probably support me on this. Yes she did try to convince me she liked me just as I was, but in the end she's enjoyed every little gain I've got as much or more than I do. I know this because she tells me this. She said she thought it was foolish, but absolutely loves the new size, although she tries to play it down so as to not hurt my feelings about my old size. We have an agreement though, I told her I'd quit when she said it was big enough, and while she has said in the past I'm big enough she hasn't even hinted to me to stop so I think that speaks for itself.

[Guiri]

And was she one of the one's who said size didn't matter?

[Stillwantmore22]

Not pointing fingers or saying names.....but, if youre a whipped little WEENY you shouldnt tell your woman either. I mean god forbid if she wears the PANTS in your household and you had the NERVE to tell her you were doing PE.....sheesh I dont wanna touch that one.........man I'm so glad I'm an ALPHA male.

[Hugeness]

Hey SWM22,

Take it easy on that Soapbox brother!! Given some of the problems you have had in your personal life, I would think you would be a little more forgiving for guys who are trying to work with their ladies the best way they know how.

In the end, if you tell your lady and she objects... then where the hell are you? You may end up doing it anyway and she is going to be pissed about that too. is it better to ask for forgiveness or ask for permission?

Hugeness.

[Stillwantmore22]

Wasnt meaning to appear on a soapbox, was just saying that well .....my body is mine and what I choose to do with it is my decision. Right? Sure I told my ex about my PE and she was supportive but, I would have continued with it regardless. I just feel that if a person feels they need to do something to improve their own self image or whatever the reason behind it may be....they should go ahead regardless of what others say. NOthing more, or less.

[Sizemeister]

What kind of breast enlargement program are you on?

Size

Well, I'm on an all natural breast enlargement program using herbs. There are a lot of companies out there right now with similar products, but I chose one to try for 6 months to see how it works. I chose SBS (Small Breast Solutions). I'm trying to stay away from breast implants because of the risks involved and because most of them don't look and feel real. After having 4 kids and breastfeeding them, I feel somewhat deflated and want to perk/firm myself back up (if that's possible).

wifeepea, you mentioned that you are satisfied and happy with your husband's size. If he gets bigger will that be ok too? Do you think you'll enjoy it more? Being a woman on a board like this, you are bound to get the "does size matter" question. Can you tell us a little about your feelings on this issue as well as other women you've talked to? Thanks in advance.

Some interesting responses. Thanks for the input.

Swm, I'll try not to take offense of your post. My household is very structured and I take charge of major decisions. If you just went through a divorce, perhaps I can understand your me-first attitude. I went through a painful divorce many years ago and it took me years to love and trust anybody again, except myself.

I forgot the name of the member, but he made the post about his woman and PMS and how the time spent doing PE can be turned against him. In many ways I can relate to what he was saying. The same thing happened to me earlier this year when I joined a health club to work on the ol' bod. She was supportive of it. Three times a week for 3 hours each time doesn't seem like much, but when time with the wife and kids began to suffer and the honey-do list continued to grow, her support began to wane. I'm not the guy to say "Shuddup, bitch!" and backhand her across the room, so I simply cut back on the time spent at the gym until the list grows shorter.

I don't want my PE time to be used against me in the same way. It seems like the better approach right now to do it without her knowledge and let her detect the difference when it comes. When she comments on it (and she will), then I will tell her what had happened.

I'm very happy with his size now. If he indeed does get bigger then I'm sure that'll be fine also. Women can accomodate most sizes whether it be large or small and I think it depends more on the woman to achieving pleasure than what the size of the man is. I wouldn't want him to get too big in fear that intimacy would become uncomfortable, but I really don't think that will happen since I've managed to give birth to 4 children. Do I think it will increase my pleasure if he gets bigger? Perhaps and that would be a great benefit. Do I think his enlarged appearance may turn me on more? Probably, but he turns me on already.

Thanks for your thoughts wifeepea. I just started a post about vaginal orgasms. Could I get your input into them vs. clitoral oragsms? You mentioned in your answer that women have a lot to do with their orgasms - can you go into detail? I'm wondering if a woman that has not had a vaginal orgasm could have one with the proper knowledge on how to move (or whatever it takes) to have an orgasm during intercourse. Do you think one of the biggest inhibitors is the mind or is it purely a physical thing? Thanks for any insights - I appreciate your thoughts.