PE routine for family man

[mario55]

I have been considering PE for quite some time but cannot seem to find the time required to make the gains described on this site. I am a 37 yr old married father of three. I am wondering if there is anyone out there who manages a career and a family life while getting in a successful, discreet pe routine. You advice is appreciated.

[RB]

Mario, just like you, only 2 kids. Check out my routine in the routine forum, ask any questions you like. Stealth PE is very very doable...

[monsta]

Mario55,

i too am married with 3 kids and a pretty demanding career. two things you will need is something i am pretty sure you already have, patience and dedication. sometimes you will have to skip a session or two. a understanding with your wife will also help. my wife leaves me alone for about 45 min so i can do my routine. i also do a routine in the morning while everyone is asleep. good luck i am sure you will succeed!

[luvdadus]

Due to the same concerns I piecemeal my routine throughout the day. This means I don't hot wrap most of the time, even though I'd like to. I manage to get about 25 min of work in before everyone else is awake. Dry jelqing leaves no mess or fragrances to explain. I also get in 5 or 10 min at a time throughout the day.
my routine is 45 min jelq and 10 min stretch. about an hour's worth spread out. It worked for me. If you think that your situation with your wife would allow sharing this with her that would simplify things enormously.

[MechaBlue]

High intensity (be sure to work up to it to avoid injury) manual stretching and jelqing don't take too long and can be done after your wife falls asleep. Taking a shower right before going to bed can allow some time for a hot wrap if you wish to include it (quite a few people, including me, don't). If you are trying to hide it from your wife, try to avoid spotting (burst capillaries in the head due to too much pressure. Pretty much harmless but hard to explain away).

[luvdadus]

Another way to hide spots/ discoloration is to have sex sessions in the dark or in candlelight.

[RB]

I agree, Dry jelquing for me is the way to go...

I think it works better, and allows me to really work the deep erectile tissues, without putting too much pressure on the veins, etc.

[mario55]

Thanks for all of your help. Where can I learn about the dry jelq technique? Does splitting the PE rountine( ie. stretch in the morning and jelq at night) diminish its effectiveness?

[RB]

Not at all. I do my 30 minute workout in 5 minute increments throughout the day. In 6 months I've gained 2.75" in length, and 1.25" in girth...

For dry jelqing, this is what I do. I use the tips of my thumbs and forefingers to sqeeze the shaft, then slide the skin while squeezing. The same spot on the skin where I originally take my "grip" is still under my fingers when I finish a stroke.

Ironically, I started this way, as I have big hands and had a small dick. It was the only way I could do it. After a while, I started using lube and jelqed like normal, and for me it just didn't work as well.

I start as close the base as possible, then work up as far as possible. When I started, I had to do the lower shaft section, then the upper, but now my skin stretches just fine...

[J Meister]

I can relate to your question. Here are two threads that summarize how I have dealt with the same questions and issues.

http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=593

http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=787

Summer is the worst time for me. I have very little privacy and it makes it more difficult to do a stealth routine. I just use lack of privacy for rest breaks and come back more motivated than ever. Hope this helps.

[mario55]

Tried the dry jelq last night but found it a bit painful and awkward. My testical sack(unshaven) was being strecthed along with the skin on my shaft while I was jelquing. What am I doing wrong?

Also found a great microwaveable heating pad which helps avoid the wet towel routine. I tried it this morning at it worked really well.

I'll keep you guys posted with my gains. I can't wait for my wife to say something even though she's definitely satisfied with our lovemaking...she often times has multiple orgasms during a session including the infamous"squirts". Thanks again for the support and confidence.

[RB]

Just do what you can, eventually the skin becomes more elastic and any pain ceases...

Tell us more about your wife's squirting....

How do you bring it about? Clitorally? G-spot? Cul de Sac? Details, mand Details...

[mario55]

RB,

I can usually get my wife to squirt on almost each lovemaking session( not when we're having a quick session) in the following way..firstly, I love to eat pussy, so I nibble on her clit and apply some gentle tongue action for a while. This will usually cause her to cum enough that it allows sufficient lubrication for when I penetrate her. I am invariably on top when she squirts. I place her legs on my shoulders forming almost a 90 degree angle which allows me to penetrate really deeply. I know that I am touching her cul de sac as she says it is like no other sensation. I continue to press my dick and try to gyrate it around. I know my wife is about to squirt because she begins to tremble, all her vaginal muscles tighten up and gush...i can even hear it some times coming out of her pussy...it's awesome. The only problem is you have to change the sheets because of the quantity of liquid and two you're out of luck if you're up for a second round because squirting kills her for the night.

One last comment, I think that the degree of orgasm also depends on the individual woman. I've been with several other women who I wasn't able to make climax like my wife. She concentrates a lot on making herself cum and I make sure she tells me when I hit the spot. I guess a little bit of practice and some luck as well.
I'm looking forward to achieving 1.5 inches in length and about 1 inch in girth. I wonder if this will change anything. Good luck.
Hope this helps.

[RB]

Damn, I guess I need more length. I'm now at 7.75", and can't bottom out in my wife yet. I've bumped her cervix a few times, which she didn't like. I think it's more in my approach. From my understanding, at the height of female excitement, the cervix lifts up to expose this area. The next time I really have her humming, I'll go for it...

I am confident my wife can and has squirted, although we didn't have a clue what was going on. She prefers vaginal to clitoral orgasms, and her g-spot is relatively shallow in her vagina. I really concentrate on bumping and grinding it during intercourse, and she's left a dinner plate sized wet spot in the bed more than a few times. I think she just needs to relax and let it go, but she was raised a good catholic girl, and I'm still trying to convince her that marital sex for other than procreation isn't a sin... :)

Recently she was horny, we were in bed but the kids were still awake, in their rooms. I got her aroused with my fingers, then hit her g-spot over and over. She came for about 2 minutes solid, then stopped me, and said to be careful as what I was doing put too much pressure on her bladder. I didn't ask then, but I'm sure she was feeling an urge to urinate, and if she would have went with it would have squirted. It'll happen one day, hopefully soon...

I'd love to talk to her about it, but she isn't comfortable talking about sex much, even after 13 years of marriage, and thinks I'm a circus freak when I want it more than a few times a week :)

[mario55]

RB,

At 7.75 " I would say that length is probably not the issue( by the way how much have you gained since you started PEing?). Have you pressed really deeply without thrusting...just basically letting your dick just kind of navigate to the back of the vagina and gyrate slowly? Pumping and grinding is not what makes my wife squirt. Another thing I do is just penetrate the vagina with the head of my dick pretty quickly though (you know when it makes a slurping sound). This turns her on as well.
Oral sex is not a bad idea either.

My wife is catholic as well and it's taken a while for her to get into much more wild sex. She's recently even talked about shaving her pussy...I couldn't believe it! I would obviously play the part of the barber...they say italians are the best ones!!

Good luck.

[RB]

In 6 months of stealth pe I've gained 2.75" in length and 1.25" in girth. I think I wanna end up between 8-9" long, and at least 6" in girth. For now, I plan to just keep pling along until she screams in ectasy as soon as I squeeze it in her...

I'll give the gyrations a go next time we're at it. Do you go straight to this, or only when she's just about to cum from thrusting or other?

Right now and for the past good bit, just finding time for a quickie has been a bitch. Even trying to plan time away together for a night seems impossible. But as soon as I get her alone where she can finally let go, she's in for the ride of her life...

[mario55]

RB,

Impressive gains...I'm starting at a bit over 6" in length so I hoping to be able to recognize similar gains as you have with a dedicated routine. I'm assuming your wife has noticed a real difference in your dick size...how did you explain the change?

As for the squirt I recommend a deep penetration without too much thrusting...nice and easy. Like I mentioned earlier, I ususally perform oral sex before the deep penetration.

Good luck and I'll be keeping posted to see how things go...or for that matter how things CUM!!

[RB]

I told her a while back that I wished on a star and told a few lies, and my dick started growing :)

She's noticed a difference, and knows I'm exercising, I told her I was doing dick ups...

One thing to point out, if you start doing squeezes and such, you will probably get some skin discoloration, such as red dots and skin bruising, which is normal. This will need to be explained if the wife notices it, as mine almost freaked out the first time she noticed (after a pretty intense squeeze session, I wasn't thinking, should've waited until she was done in the bathroom). Just be congnizant of what you're doing, and you'll be fine...

Had a chance to try the deep grind this am, when she started cumming from g-spot thrusting, I went deep and swirled around. Heard some vocalizations I haven't heard in awhile :) Don't think she squirted, but we didn't have much time, she had to get ready for work. Will keep at it.