Telling Her?

[Mnemnon]

I will never tell my woman that I am PEing. There is a certain satisfaction that I get when she makes comments like "Either I got smaller or you got bigger!". Do we men like being sneaky? How many of you have told your women and how many have decided to keep it a secret?

I didn't tell my wife while I was married.

I have not told my wife primarily because I know she'd think it was silly. Also, she'd certainly think I'd hurt myself and also say that "you're fine already". But how would I know if she really meant that? So I do this in private on my own. Due to privacy concerns, I'd rather she know about it though. Maybe when I get gains and she notices on her own, then I'll say something. There was a great pre-troll thread on this subject - it may be in best posts. It even included comments from a woman - wifeypea.

pub14.ezboard.com/fpeforu...=110.topic (http://pub14.ezboard.com/fpeforumsbestposts.showMessage?topicID=110.topic)

This is the link to the previous thread. Sorry, I got the wife's name wrong, wifeypea was from another thread. Still, interesting reading.

[Bassman007]

I also haven't told my wife I have been PEing. I hoping on day she say to me "Doesn't this thing ever stop growing?" To me that would be the ultimate complement. Then I will know that I have succeeded.

Bassman007

[Mnemnon]

I was thinking that imagine if we told our women what we were doing, and they had to watch us slaving over our kocks like obsessed maniacs; and after a year of this we had no gains. If we knew for sure, that PE works, I'm sure we wouldn't care if our women knew. I guess we men hate the possibility of looking like idiots.
Maybe in the future, there will be magazines, like "Muscle and Fitness" that would be dedicated to PE. Then PE would be the norm.

[MechaBlue]

It seems like most women appreciate a larger than average penis (ie 7-9 inches in lengeth and 5-6 inches in girth). Very few will admit it, though. Perhaps not even to themselves. Yet they always seem impressed by a large erecton.

It seems the easiest way to provide that large erection is to PE without telling her. She won't feel you are acting foolish, and the end result is the same.

I've been PEing for a year and a half. Gains are 1-1/2" in length and 1/2" girth. A few years ago I bought the wife a vibrator that was larger than my own equipment and she called it "Big Pinky". It stretched her a little bit more than I could so she rarely used it claiming it was too wide. A few months ago she was getting a little sore during a lovemaking session and asked if she could finish me off by hand. When she started stroking I grew a little more to my maximum size (7-1/2" X 5.75"). After my orgasm I noticed she had whipped Big Pinky out of the night stand and was holding it up next to my member. I was now the same girth as B. P.. She asked if I swapped the vibrator out to a smaller one since she knew I was not as big around as B. P. before.
Throughout the last year and a half of hanging, jelqing and PCing she hasn't noticed a grew but thinks the vibrator shrunk!! LOL

I'm not married, but I'll never tell any female I"m screwing that I'm into PE. Hell, no one I know offline knows what I'm up to. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter anyway. As long as I can fill a woman up, does it matter how I do it? I don't think she'll mind.

In the past yr. I've gained approx. 1.5 inches in length. @.5 girth. I've gotta start keeping better records.

[dino775]

As some of you know me and the wife had split up for 3 months but while we were separated I told her about PE and to my surprise she didn't freak or think I was a retard she did make all the comments about size doesn't matter and so on. The last couple of months before we split up we had only had sex twice and both times she had made a comment about how big it felt,and was always looking at my dick but the marriage was already in the shiiter so we took a break from each other and for the first time could talk to each other.
And since I have been back she has really not said to much about it but she hasn't said to stop every once in awhile she reminds me that size doesn't mater "crock of shiit "but it makes her feel good about her self for saying it". But she loves the size difference I can tell twice this week she woke me up in the middle of the night and hoped on my raging night wood no foreplay or anything you know how many times she has done this in 15 years of marriage if you count these last two times she has done it TWICE so she is digging the size and I think because she knows she thinks about my dick more.
I was always the guy to say don't tell but maybe I was wrong.

Dino

[Mnemnon]

I sort of feel that PE is my secret weapon, recipe, etc....Outside of you guys, I feel a mental block against revealing this secret to anyone. I don't want to feel like I have to compete against the world. I don't want my current woman leave me and find someone even close to my size (whew! Talk about insecure.). I want to be in the top 10% in the bedroom, in the locker room, at the doctor's office, on the beach, and anywhere else where my unit is open for inspection. There is such a thing as "Big Dick Mentality" which exists in a "penile capitalism". Your gain is some one else's loss (in confidence).

I told my wife about PE, and she did not like it one bit. She was Mormon and thinks masturbation is wrong and pre-marital sex. She was a pretty conservative person. My feeling is that most women do not like the idea of their men doing PE, although all of them have different levels of tolerance towards it.

My wife and I are going through a divorce, we've been separated for three months. In a recent phone conversation she told me she wanted me dead, and she did not want to hear from me again. PE was not the sole cause of our separation, but it was a factor among many.

I doubt any religious woman would be okay or look highly upon a man that did PE. I think being okay with PE requires a pretty open mind about sexuality, something which most people do not have. I would suggest that in all your relationships you be honest at the beginning before getting too involved, a lie in the beginning can destroy a relationship. I can honestly say that had I not gone into PE I would perhaps still be married, although as I said it was more than just the PE that caused the marriage to ultimately fail.

Let me emphasize my wife was a very religious woman, with very strict morals beliefs. There is nothing wrong with this, but she was very harsh on me because of my

[Sizemeister]

I actually tried to tell her, though. I started dating her after I had already attained most of my current gains, and she thinks I'm huge (I'm still lingering around 7.5 x 5.3 or so). One day it looked bigger than usual and she asked me something to the effect of "How did you get it that big, did you hang a brick from it or something?" O, now that you mention it honey.....

I just laughed when she asked that, and it was something that we joked about off and on for a while. Then one day I asked her "What if I told you I was hanging weight from my penis?" She sounded disgusted with the idea and said that she would be very upset. A lot of it is that she thinks it would be very painful. But she is totally against the idea, so I haven't told her about PE. Since I dont' live with her, then it isn't a problem.

[Hugeness]

Thanks for posting the original thread on this fromt eh Wife, Happycamper.

The thing that struck me back then and still does is this... SHE STOPPED HIM FROM DOING PE!!!!!!

She said it in such a nice little positive way, but nevertheless, he ended up stopping PE because THEY decided to. BULLSHIT!!!!! He was doing PE on his own so obviously HE wanted to do it. But in the end, a woman will make your life hell if you don't do as she instructs. So don't give her a chance to instruct you!!

My advice is that unless you can be damn sure your woman is going to go along with the idea, keep it to yourself. She may have all sorts of hidden fears that make her want you to stop PE. Why buy into that crap?! Do your own thing and deal with the @#%$ when it comes down. I have had my woman find dirty mags of mine and a penis pump and I told her that unless she wanted me to go @#%$ around or she started blowing me daily, to leave me alone. Guess what?.... I just laugh about it now and I don't give a damn what she thinks.

Miglan, I am sorry for what you are going through, but you are likely getting divorced because your wife couldn't control you and it drove her nuts. I promise you that if you get out there and live your life, that you are going to be much happier without her!!! Doing PE is not a BAD thing. If you are a good person, does God hate what you are doing... NO! Does God hate that we build our bodies to look better and be healthy... NO! This is just another form of taaking care of yourself, improving yourself, and being happy without hurting anyone else. Sounds damn good to me!!

[Stillwantmore22]

My ex wife knew from the start of my PE. There was no way to hide it from her. Was gone most of the day, she didnt work and when I got home she wanted to see me. So, I couldnt keep secret 30-60 minutes in the bedroom alone. She thought it was silly but, said go for it "if you must". She noticed when I started gaining girth during oral one night. She had me in her mouth and mumbled: "mmmf oof feelf bigger imma mouf." My current girlfriend doesnt know that I'm doing PE. When I start gaining again (soon!) she might notice. I'll play it off for as long as possible then, I will probably tell her when its totally obvious I've gotten bigger and "gosh I dont think I've gotten bigger do you??" wont work anymore.

[YGuy]

When I initially started PEing I thought I'd keep it to myself and never tell anyone about what I was doing. I just prefered having girls thinking I was naturally well-endowed. I wasn't in a relationship of any sort, so no one was seeing it. For the first 6 months of PEing, I hadn't told anyone, until my ex gf came home from college during Spring Break. We got alone one night, one thing led to another, and we were naked. Right when she put it in she said it had felt longer. Great ego boost !! The only thing I could come up with was it was a hormonal change. Well she believed that for a month, then as I kept gaining, my new excuse was I was taking steriods and it was making my dick bigger LOL So being the curious girl she was, she did some research on steriods, and didn't find anything about penis size increase and steriods. So she asked my best friend if it was possible to get a bigger penis in any way. My best friend said it was either surgery, which they eliminated right away, or pumps. So they both concluded I used a Pump. It was pretty embarrassing lol I thought I'd set the record straight, So I told my best friend about PEing and informed him about how it works and what it does. Next I had to tell my ex gf. It got to the point where she knew something was happening down there, and I had to give a logical explanation. So I told her about PEing, and she actually respected it, which I thought was really cool. She gave me the BS line "You don't need it, yada yada", and mentioned that I should stop. It was kinda nice to hear her ask "hows those penis exercises going"... atleast she respected it. We're just friends now, and she hasn't told anyone about it, that I know of. She'll be the only girl I ever tell about PE, I was just kinda backed into a corner and I had to tell her. Well thats my story....

[Mnemnon]

I don't think women dig it when they find out that their men are spanking out a batch. They want exclusive rights to penile output. When we PE, although more ofen than not, we do not spin any webs, we still manipulate semi or rigid members. To women, I believe, we are having sex without them. How many of you would admit to your ladies that you're spanking that monkey? Not many, I think; and so, I doubt many of us would cop to PEing.

[someoneunlikeyou]

I told my girlfriend after being with her for 1yr and a half and she totally is for it and wants what ever I want. Its almost like the door test is she dosen't like the PEing she's a selfesh bitch and may not really love you and if she supports you then she is behind you %100 and a great girl.

[PEnister]

YGuy7,

You think she didn't tell ? :) Well, I don't know her as a person, but I wouldnt be suprised if she chated about it in some girl talk. When it comes to you it's ok though, cause following the description she'd say "yeah he got a big dick".
Did you get any anonymous calls wanting you for the night ?
If not, I'm probably wrong :)

I didn't tell my gf...

PEnister

I've been a lurker for quite some time and probably will continue to do so until I have something extremely valuable to contribute to the board, but I found this topic entirely too interesting to pass up. Honestly, I think it all boils down to how open-minded your mate is and how comfortable you feel around them. I've only been dating my current gf for about 3 months and for some reason or another I felt compelled to tell her. However, I knew when I did tell her that she wouldn't offer any negative input, look upon me as silly, or try to discourage my endeavor. After I did tell her I found that my assumption of her reaction was absolutely correct. Naturally she told me that I was already fine (seems like standard format with these women), but she was very supportive and wished me luck. Occassionally she even asks me how are my "special exercises" going. Her only complaint is that now her mouth is liable to get sore a lot more quicker during oral sex. I am fortunate to be be paired with a very considerate, open-minded, not too mention SEXY lady who allows me to feel absolutely comfortable being me and all that entails. I have no problem speaking upon anything and everything that is on my mind, which is why I dig this girl so much. She keeps me well within my comfort zone. Had she been any of the other females I've ever dated, there's no way I would have told her.

[titanium30]

My experience makes me very shy to tell my significant other what I'm up to. I feel that she would either feel that she was inadequate in some way (too loose?) or that I was harbouring feelings of inferiority, or something negative would come of it. I once had problems with erections and premature ejaculation. I went to a doctor and a sex therapist and it all caused a riff between us and very mixed feelings on her part. She said she wanted to help out, but she ended up freaking out on me, saying it was all too much for her. It was all really just problems in my head, as my father had just died and I was an emotional wreck. Women are the greatest thing on earth, but they are very emotionally weak in a relationship other than motherhood. In my experience, if you have a serious problem, they are not very supportive. Bottom line, telling anyone else too much about your private aspirations of penis greatness could have unforseen risks. Let yourselves both benefit from the gains, and shrug off the urge to explain too much.

titanium

[Mnemnon]

I'm no Cassanova, unlike some of my buddies. I prefer to be involved in longer term relationships. The one thing that I have noticed about the dozen or so women I've been involved in such relationships is that although their puzzies may differ, they share the common trait of being unpredictable psychos. When they love you, they'll tell all their girl friends that you have a big dick. If they suddenly and unexplicably decide that you are the world's worst A-hole, then she will tell everyone, starting with your guy friends, that you are some pathetic guy with an inferiority complex about your penis and that you are obsessively trying all kinds of crazy ways to enlarge it.

Why give them ammunition to use against us at some later date?

[Bigeight]

I told my wife also after doing it for 6 months. I didn't want to hide it from her. Plus the time constraints and the privacy issue so I had to tell her so I can have free reign. Anyway though she thought I was crazy and of course the usual you're fine speech she respected my reasons. Of course most of our reasons are because we fell there is a lack in that area and want to improve it. Since I lift weights also I used that to my advantage. She doesn't care if I'm muscular or fat but I know she likes the fact that a lot of woman want her man because he's fine. Well when I get a bigger dick then she'll have something else to be proud of. She hasn't said anything about since we've talked. I guess she asked all of her questions when I told her. Anyway most of the guys on this board are white and most of the time from my experience white girls are very receptive to things like that. I'm black and so is my wife and we all know how black woman can be so I believe that most of you guys should be straight. Hope I didn't offend anybody with that last statement. Apologize if I did. Just stating a view point from my experience.

I am mixed black/white and in my life have only dated black girls. My current girlfriend is black as well, and although I have never dated a white girl I have been exposed to their personality. From my experience they are a lot more open minded about such things, like bigeight was saying. However, I was lucky enough to find a sexy, large-assed (you know how it goes) black girl who is also EXTREMELY open-minded. That is why I had no problem telling her. Damn, I think I am going to try to hold onto this one...

[Canuck]

You see I was haveing a little trouble with ED so when I first started PE in January this year, I told my wife that it was to help with the ED problem. See was definatly in favour of this as we use to have a great sex life. Not once did I ever have to beg for it and many times it would be trust upon me (so to speak). Well after a couple of months with some noticable gains (in girth) she commented that its getting too large for oral, yes she could take it all in the beginning, and that I would just have to settle for the head job instead. This was OK for me as I was getting the results I wanted. It was then that I told her the "rest of the story" and as things are getting bigger she is more supportive than ever. New she is looking for me to attain my ultimate goals of and 8 x 6. In my case it was the right thing to do. We are both around 50 +-.

Regards Canuck

Just before this thread started, my wife had started commenting about how long mr. happy had become. So when this thread started, I was eager to spring PE on her. I took me a while to do it, but I finally did. She didn't ask to many questions and sort of thought it was silly when I told her I wanted an 8 inch pecker. In the end, she respected my my desire for a larger package, as long as she is the only woman that benefits from it.

Since then, she hasn't asked any questions, and gives me more privacy. This morning she told me that mr. happy was getting bigger around. It was the first time she had commented on girth, so it was a good pick me up.

So for me, telling her was the right thing to do, because she knew I was up to something, and now gives me time for PE.

On a side note, at 6.75x5.25, I still have a ways to go, but when I hit 6.5 in length, it really sparked our love life. I guess that is the length she requires to rub bottom just right ;)

[Sizemeister]

bttt

[mistered]

This evening when i have the time i am looking....forward to replying to this thread.

[twatteaser]

I do not currently have a girlfriend, but would nevertheless never tell her. I feel like it is my private business and as long as I show her the attention she wants or deserves why bother? Let her think it is all me. I mean my logic (or madness) is that if a girl had het tits done she wants the guys to think it was her. Not hey look at my fake tiities, of course for mild tit work, not super EEEs or more on a 5 ft girl! Do you agree or diagree with me here? I mean we all PE to get to a certain goal in size or whatever. You think once we reach it then it will be a constant never ending quest? look at the younger guys who are on here, some never having been laid as of yet! I believe some lurkers never register for fear that someone will find there real identity out and scream what a needle dick they believe themselves to be. So they just gleam info and never post!

[luvdadus]

If I were a single man, with a girlfriend it would never cross my mind to tell her. With a wife it is different. There exists a double standard that husband never have a secret while if one asks to many questions of the wife he is a possessive, insanely jealous control freak asshole. So if the wife were to find out this secret then things could be tense. Sharing the fact of ones program could be a blessing with a supportive wife or a curse with a manipulative vindictive bitch of a wife (which some of the guys here on the forum may have).
One sentence in your post caught my attention:
"Let her think it is all me. "
Twatteaser, it IS all you unless your pe program was getting a large implant. Cheers.

[twatteaser]

OK, you got me there! I admit it!

[snakehandler]

well it looks like i'm in the minority, but i told my g/f basically right from the start (we've been together a long time - she's basically my wife, i guess...) although it would be nice to "surprise" her with a big dick, i can't deal with trying to be sneaky & finding the time when she won't know. when i told her, i just admitted "i know you'll think this is silly & that i'm nuts, but i just want to try this & see if it works..." she was fine with it, seems only sort of interested but has commented a couple of times now that she thinks it's actually working (she was really skeptical about it) - so i'm glad i've been up front about it...

[Operation Anaconda]

MY WIFE WAS HAPPY THAT I WAS DOING SOMETHING THAT WAS TRYING TO HELP IMPROVE OUR SEX LIFE AND ALSO GIVE ME A BETTER OUTLOOK ON LIFE.SHE COULD TELL I WAS A LOT MORE OUTGOING WITH LIFE IN GENERAL.SHE SAID I WAS A LOT MORE HAPPIER PERSON AS WELL?SO I SAY IF YOUR WIFE OR GF IS REALLY OPEN MINDED TELL HER!

[ThunderSS]

Turn your cap lock off please.

[Operation Anaconda]

WHY?

[ThunderSS]

Because it is hard to read.

[mistered]

I had a lot to say but figured the vastness of it all would just be a waste of time anyway.

The reasons men tell/not tell is as numerous as moon craters.
Over-all too much of the real underlying reasons are discounted thru excuse making, although that can be okay within itself.

A person going thru all the posts of this thread and reading between the lines can come out on the other side and say a predictable number of guys have done the same things they complain about the women in their lives of doing.
Isn't it funny how when a man gives another man advice it can be considered mentoring, yet when a woman gives a man feedback it is seen and felt as nagging? lol

I guess the numbers in favor of telling the wife/gf outnumbers those of no-tells. That surprised me; i expected the opposite.
I would not fault anyone for not wanting to tell for more than one reason.
I also understand the type of woman who has that capability to use any and all personal info about you against you with no boundaries. So in that context to each his own.
Wouldn't it be nice to have a marriage with no secrets and be safe within that?
My wife has the potential to be destuctive, yet i hide nothing. I prefer the light-weightedness of the open soul over any over-bearing luggage any day.

And PE?
Hell, it's therapy, it's healing, it's coping, it's a grounding rod, it's sexual health, it's pleasure, it's hobby, it's mental/physical maintenance, it's sexual enhancement, it's a lot of positve and good things.

I could care less what another person outside of me thinks about it and i truly care not what others think about me (although a wise man will know who to reveal his secrets to and who not). If they want to share their rediculous baggage with someone let them get a pet or find some other "bloke"(look it up) to dominate.
On the other hand those who are in a marriage where freedom does not ring has to dance to the tune of no-tell unless they want to suffer for it (unless that is not the real reason they wish to not tell; after all PE can be our own personal bussiness if we want it to be).
So either way can work if the reasons themselves are honest and true.

Hey Mnemnon, you said:

"I don't think women dig it when they find out their men are spanking out a batch".

You're right to a degree; i think more women than you might imagine would be turned on by the thought of a man spanking his monkey and squirting out a batch.

If a guy is PE'ing for unhealthy reasons, his ol'lady probably knows that and as a result objects (women sometimes know us more than we would believe).
Women for the most part are nurturers and many times they react out of that.

Miglan, you said:

I doubt any religious woman would be ok or look highly upon a man that did PE").

You probably say that out of your experience with those who claim to be of the cloth.
Fact is: The scriptures say the bedroom is undefiled.

When religious people think and act the way you describe your wife, it is sometimes done so in the context of personal baggage and has nothing to do with true religion.
Now, if we PE'ers sat in trees like monkeys and squirted on each other as well as those on the ground, that would be a diffeent story.
But in reality we are a bunch of unique men doing what we want to do and in a healthy and harmless way with no shame.

On the other side of that coin miglan, maybe your wife sees something you do not see and she fears your PE is feeding something else and she is trying to nurture you and keep you grounded in the contexts of her and/or your's faith. A good reason for openness and dialog.

Basiclly men are not the nurturing type and will walk out of a marriage much quicker than a woman. And women, being nurturers will hang in there much longer before giving up. But once they give up, that is usually it, they've washed their hands. Maybe that is why guys seem to the weaker ones; wanting to get back together with the wife. And the wives seem the stronger ones, saying they are through, meaning they have went the whole gambit and are thru.

It may do more good than harm to sit down and iron this all out with your wife Miglan. In the context of religion, like it or not, you are the priest of your family and she might be wanting you to live up to your marriage vows. So all in all, there are no absolutes, even in the world of PE.

Only one caution:
if we PE not for the right reasons we run the chance of feeding something that may not be working in our best interest. In that case we could have a void within us that we are filling with the wrong "creme" (look that one up too), thus never acomplishing fulfillment; which brings us back around to the thread: "why does everbody PE".

[Isn't it ironic that both threads brought out tones of anger?]

[Operation Anaconda]

Okay.

[ThunderSS]

Thanks!!

[J Meister]

You've captured the many nuances of the tell/don't tell discussion/debate. Each PEer has to evaluate his own personal situation and gauge his significant other's reaction before revealing all. Ideally, we could reveal all and not have to PE in a cloak of secrecy. However, many times this is not practical/possible.

[vivace]

Now why'd ya go and make me think about why I PE? LOL...

I don't and won't cheat on my wife,
although I go to a public gym, I am shy so I do not parade--
So I guess I just want a bigger dick for myself.

My wife has a raw, terse, cutting, and hard hitting sense of humor--hell, I married it.. I would never tell her for fear of years of merciless teasing.
Also, it pleases me that she cannot figure out why I am gradually getting bigger...hee hee hee....

[mistered]

You said:

"So i guess i just want a bigger henry for myself".

And i say:

you're an honest PE'er.

Some have difficulty getting over the hurdle of admitting they do it for themselves; projecting onto the women (imo).

I like your wifes sense of humor; it's challenging as well as grounding.

Aha! That reminds me.
Another potential thread:

(How do women react to henry growing when they don't know why)?

Are they dumb or what?lol

How would a guy react if his wife's/gf's vagina kept growing and growing and....or shrinking and.... lolololeluia!
I bet money a guy wouldn't just sit there and go, Duhh!

Okay i'm back to normal now. Sorry i got off topic. I promise to never joke or be off topic again; the funeral's tommorow,lol.

Thanks Vivace!
Somehow your post put me in the mood to unwind and laugh a bit (Laughter makes us well).
It's a little rare living out here in the sticks away from the hustle and bustle of people.

Enjoy life and be well.

[goingdeep]

a vagina shrinking... what a great place this world would be...LOL

[Mnemnon]

Mistered,

You may be right about women being dumb as a box of rocks. I think that my GF believes that her vagina is shrinking rather than my penis is growing. Regardless, I'm still not going to tell. Let her believe what she wants.

PE is our secret weapon. I'm not keen on letting everyone know my secret. I enjoy being a little unique in a cookie- cutter world. I know that it is absolutely ridiculous to let one's life revolve around the size of one's privates, but I do realize that it is one of the components that make up my self confidence. I have been blessed with many things (I don't want to go into any of them) but I still sense a bit of insecurity about my physical self, deep within my subconscious.

I was accelerated through school and so I was always the runt of the class. Gym class was especially brutal for me. While the other boys were in puberty, I was still a child. I used to pray for the first sign of pubes, a beard or a crack in my voice. I became very self destructive and self hating. It took me years to come to terms with some of my "issues". The "penis" thing is one of the last of these that I am trying to bury.

To give you an example of how F'd up I am, I still don't use a ruler to measure my John Henry. I know that I am larger than average because the women that I sleep with always comment on its size. I won't even let them measure it. I do my exercises and gauge my progress by the complaints my girl friend makes vis-a-vis it being too big (which is usually her telling me that she's getting too tight).

I guess the truth may be that all of our motivations towards PE may be stimulated by our insecurities about our penis size.

[mistered]

Another idea!
If you don't want her to know, then next time she comments that henry is bigger, throw her for a 1,2,3,loop-a-doop.

Ask her why is her vagina shrinking.

[mistered]

Wife/gf reaction to PE:

http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=1232


A wife's perspective:

http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=1206


Questions regarding your wife's opinion:

http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=1240

[dawolf]

I think the majority of the men doing PE try to keep it a secret is that they want to hear the question "Is this thing getting bigger, or what?" My gains have been somewhat good in doing PE almost 4 months (3/4" length, 1/8 girth), but have yet to get that question, so until that day comes, I will continue to keep my endeavor to myself.

[dino775]

Guys

This is a great thread I thought the new guys would like it and the vet's would enjoy reading it one more time


Dino

[RB]

I hid it from my wife for a few months. I originally planned on telling her that I signed up for a pay site as her present for Valentine's day, but chickened out at the last minute. When she started noticing the difference, I told her I was doing "dick ups" She laughed. Eventually she pressed for more info, and I told her I had found some "exercises" to ensure penile health with the added bonus of making it grow. She did all the obligatory "you're perfect how you are" crap, half heartedly, and when I was having issues with cumming too soon (too many kegels and a super strong pc) she told me I should stop pe as it made me cum to fast, but once I reached her cul-de-sac, I hear absolutely no more about it. It's kind of an unspoken thing between us now, and I don't think she'll urge me to stop until I about split her in two :)

[peforeal]

PE for me has always been about my own personal goal journey. I've gotten substantially bigger, but I've never directly told my wife anything, although she definitely feels the difference. The fact that the changes have been gradual make the transition in size and accommodation just so natural. Even if she were to ask me, I don't know if I'd give her all the details. I think I just want to keep her guessing and wondering. There's nothing like a little mystery in the relationship!

Peforeal

[luvdadus]

I went ahead and told the wife about the pe aspect of my exercises and the gains I had to that point (+1.625x0.5").
I did this in the venue of our little sex question email exchange. I got the opening about questioning about what she thought about penis size and my size in particular. Of course she said that size was not important, BUT SHE SAID SHE WOULDN'T MIND AN EXTRA INCH IN LENGTH AND AN EXTRA 1/2 TO 3/4 IN GIRTH!!!!!
Now I got this response from her while she was in her periovulatory time when she is at her deepest. I suspect her answer would have been different during her "shallow" times.
Any how this email thing has been a great way to find out what she likes (I did get some surprises, but not many - anyhow its all good). Thus far there have been no negative comments about the exercises, only vaguely encouraging comments (about all I can expect from her for now).
I'm not sure that she could really handle another inch in length, but I could be wrong. She don't seem to get "uncomfortable" pressure or "stitches". I guess we both have made subtle adjustments. I am definitely going for 8"bp x whatever I get.
I'll decide at that point whether to go for 8.5"x whatever I get.
Ideally I'd like 8.5x6.5 But that is a hell of a lot of work and I am a lazy SOB. I let her in on the pe part about a week ago, I've also let on that I might like to try pumping - we'll see how she responds to that.

[driver_d]

I haven't revealed all. She has made comments like "it won't fit in my mouth" (which it does) and "I must be getting tighter" (I thought that one was great). The last couple months she has become multi-orgasmic and the most recent comment was "I don't know what you're doing but keep doing it." That was the best. I didn't say anything at first because I wanted to know I could get results. Now, as long as the results are positive I'll just wait and see.

[MDC]

Originally posted by driver_d
I haven't revealed all. She has made comments like "it won't fit in my mouth" (which it does) and "I must be getting tighter" (I thought that one was great). The last couple months she has become multi-orgasmic and the most recent comment was "I don't know what you're doing but keep doing it." That was the best. I didn't say anything at first because I wanted to know I could get results. Now, as long as the results are positive I'll just wait and see.

If women knew that PE is for real, would they still be trying to convince themselves(and us) that size doesn't matter?

I've been experiencing the "cum too fast" phase for a while now, but I know what is in my future. :D

[AverageSized]

I've been very open.
And the g/f has already noticed rock hard erections, my main gain so far. And if only one, I'd still be happy.

I do it for myself, she only sees the benefits if any ;)

[luvdadus]

Well as you know I have let the wife in on my pe activities. I have now also suggested a schedule of private time for my workouts.
Last night I showed the wife the vacuum pump I just bought yesterday to incorporate into my total pe program. It was easy for her to accept it, I bought her one of those prized Rabbit pearl vibrators (I think that she has been secretly desiring one for years but never made a specific indication - everything is indirect) at the same trip to the adult video/toy store. Overall my wife has reacted quite well, better than I thought. Yeah she made the obligatory "dont you think its big enough?" question but I got the clear impression that the question was meant to compliment me not to discourage me from my efforts. Her attitude towards it seems to be mildly curious about it and slightly turned on. At first this kind of struck me as a little odd, but after thinking about it I think it makes perfect sense. One of our little variations (you get a lot of "variations" after 25 years of marriage) is me watching her masturbate and then after she cums, climbing on for my finish. Or like a few nights ago - vice versa. She seems real turned on by watching me cum or cumshots on videos etc. Anyhow I think that it turns her on a knowing I'm regularly messing with my dick. I think it also turns her on a that I told her that I intended to continue (I didn't ask for permission or approval). So I'm gonna pump in addition to my jelq and stretch. I'll be opening a thread in the pumper's forum for input.

[luvdadus]

"Her attitude towards it seems to be mildly curious about it and slightly turned on. At first this kind of struck me as a little odd..."

In addition to what I wrote above, I also found this info on fastseduction.com. It is perhaps another thing that resulted in the "turn on thing" I was revealing secrets.


Have and reveal secrets

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If you've ever wondered, how to reconcile the seeming discrepancy between the two most common things you've heard about women, namely:

women like mystery in a man
women like to know secrets about a man
then here's an explanation by Kate Reynolds from Mindlist:

"A short time ago there was a thread about revealing secrets as a way to gain rapport. IMHO this really is a great way to establish rapport, but it can be carried too far. I (and perhaps other women) like the idea of layers. Like peeling an onion, we like to think there is always more that we don't know yet. So, sharing a secret is fine as long as you convey the idea that there are lots more - and that you are willing to give some up for a price. I grow bored when I think I know all there is to know about someone."

[gr8bigdong]

I let my girlfriend of 2 years in on it about a month ago. She is cool with it, although she had mentioned on a few occasions how much bigger it felt. I think telling her was the best thing. Since we live together it gives me more time to do it, since I'm not trying to get in a workout when she's out.

[gr8bigdong]

EDIT... Double post

[doublelongdaddy]

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