PE must be controlled!

[evildead]

I'm fairly new to PE (3 months), and have been browsing these boards for around 5 months. Have learnt a hell of a lot of stuff thanks to all the great members here, and I hope to be able to contribute some of my thought towards the intelligent arguments that arise here.

I am speaking for myself here, but I am pretty sure that many also think similarly. My point is this: PE must be controlled!

PE is only suited to moderately-massively obsessive men. Men who are able to REALLY get into something and give it their all. The problem is, that due to the sensitive subject matter of PE (i.e. our dicks!), our thoughts and norms can become warped.

We think about the sizes of our dicks much more than the average man. Thinking about it constantly becomes normal for us (and I have only been at it for 3 months!).

What we have to understand is that even though PE is great and makes us feel good, no-one else really cares. This includes girls. If you are in a loving relationship, then are you constantly thinking about the size of her breasts or ass and wanting them to be bigger?!

She isn't thinking about the size of your dick, she prefers the person attached to it.

Through my short time here, there have been countless comments made that put forward the idea that dick size is a large factor in a relationship. It's not. But we (including myself) make it.

Having sex shouldn't be spent thinking "I wonder if she can feel how much bigger I am", and quite frankly, she has more important things on her mind than "Wow- he's so big!!"

Likewise, when we see another guy, we shouldn't be thinking "I wonder if he is bigger than me".

We put too much pressure on outselves, and PE becomes too big-a-part of our daily lives. Because of this, depressing and "I'm inadequate" thoughts about ourselves can develop, giving PE a certain amount of control over our lives.

We must control the PE we do, and be able to seperate it mentally from our daily lives and activities. It should be a welcome addition to our lives, but not more than a small pectentage of it.

Sorry if I have babbled: its only my second post! Check out my info/routine if you are interested:
http://www.peforum.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=5066

[lexx]

I agree, although the penis size counts for fair amount when it comes to the love making part of the relationship. I notice a similar thing in weightlifting. When you don't do it, you notice people who are showing off and looking at themselves constantly. You think to yourself, "I would never do that if I worked out." When you do workout, however, you constantly find yourself looking in the mirror, comparing yourself to others, involving weightlifting into more conversation topics.....needless to say, I am seeing the same nowadays with penis size.

[scalf3]

All I can say is Amen to that.

[nitro]

All I can say is that since I started PEing (1.2 months ago) I check my penis at least 20 times a day. And I plan to continue to act this way.

[YGuy]

While I do agree with everything you said Evildead, once you get into PE, and gains start to come, you become hooked. It becomes more psychological, than physical from that point on.

I've tried taking breaks, but I always end up getting the urge to do PE again. PE feeds our ego, with every gain we make, the bigger our ego gets. What generally happens when our ego's get bigger is, we get greedy, and we need to make even more gains, to keep feeding our ego's. With that cycle, we would never be satisfied, and thats why alot of guys keep going for more, even when they meet their goals, including myself.

My expectations have changed alot since I started PE. The first few months of my PE days, I would have been more than happy if a girl considered me average. Now though, I would be a little irritated if a girl thinks I'm anything less than 7.5". Just from that alone shows how much PE has changed my mindset, and what its done to my expectations.

A lot of times in the past, I would turn down an invitation to go out with my friends/girls, so that I could stay home and finish my PE routine. Although it kept me consistent, I missed out on a few fun nights I could have had. I realized that even though PE has had a positive influence on my confidence and self-esteem, why am I staying home to finish my workouts, when I could be out having fun? So while PE gave me more opportunities, it was also taking away some fun opportunities as well.

PE has given us a great opportunity to make our penises bigger. It gives us more self esteem and more confidence, but we can't let it take control of our lives, which I'm sure it has to all of us at some point.

The problem was, I made PE my top priority. Because of that, while I was very consistent with my PE routines and I was making gains, other aspects of my life was suffering, such as work/school, passing up opportunities with girls, and making less time for friends/family. Only up until the past 6 months or so, have I changed that attitude. Instead of making everything else fit around my PE routines, I've made PE fit around the more important things.

Too much of anything isn't good. So when you take something positive and let it consume your whole life, it becomes a negative. I'm still working on balancing that....

[J Meister]

Well said, YGuy. Because of privacy and scheduling issues, I've only been getting 1 to 3 PE sessions in per week. Yeah, I could stay up late and do more, but I'm finding that adequate sleep is an important component for PE growth and success. I've found that fewer sessions = more productive sessions and that the potential for improvement is still there. As you say, it's liberating when you reach the point where PE fits around your lifestyle rather than fitting your lifestyle around PE.

[RB]

I'm very fortunate to be able to gain on about 30 minutes of pe per day broken up into different sessions. For me, stealth pe at the office has been a god send. I don't smoke or drink coffee, so when I need a break, I hit the head and pe. This leaves evenings and weekends free.

[evildead]

Happy that you guys seem to agree with my comments- I was really worried that I didn't get my point across at all well :)

I agree with everything stated.

As with everything in life, there must be a balance. Even though I love my PE sessions, putting them ahead of the obviously important things in life (i.e. relationships and career) is definately not the way to go.

[realpuffus]

Just my thoughts.

I would call what Evildead is calling "moderetely obsessed" as "disciplined." I work out, but I'm not obsessed with it. I like all the benefits that comes from lifting weights. They way I feel, the way I look, the way I can do things (i.e. rec sports to working in the yard digging) without hurting for weeks after words. I like it all. PE is the same to me. I like the way it makes my penis feel, look, get more erect, etc.

To me PE is so much like lifting weights. If I lift more than my body can handle, I will hurt myself and not be doing anything for months. If I PE out of control, I could hurt my penis, and not be having sex! And when I have a good stretch, I actually sweat.

And like lifting weights, if I pay to much attention to my body daily, I will miss how much I gain. Instead I take a good look about once a month. The same with PE I will measure again in January, but confidently in my mind I know what I will measure.

To whoever said "I now look at my Penis every twenty minutes." I don't look at my penis any more than I used to and have actually replaced masturbating with PE. I do it in the mornings and it doesn't interfere with my life. I kegel and fowfer on my ride to work and no longer dread the commute.

I do like that my penis is bigger than it used to be, even if the gains have been modest.

To me if PE had never been here, I would have remained fine with who I am and who I am with, but since it is here (just like to me since lifting is here) I do it.

puff

[christof]

Originally posted by nitro
All I can say is that since I started PEing (1.2 months ago) I check my penis at least 20 times a day. And I plan to continue to act this way.
I'm the say way! All day, I'm pulling out the ruler and doing stretched flacid measurements.