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Idegard
12-14-2002, 01:53 PM
I think this message is interesting for everyone that uses jelqing as a PE-method. It's my experience, and to be honest, today I wished that I never heard of PE at all. It's written as a warning, so no one else will face what I've faced, but also as a request for helping comments.

I started jelqing in the late autumn 1999, and I was just about to turn 19 years old. I think the whole "do-it-yourself" PE-thing on the internet was pretty new back than. When I first saw the ad that said "enlarge your penis with simple exercises" (something like that) I just turned crazy.

About five years before I had stopped using public showers (in gymclass and quit all my sports) in puberty since my penis never did grow at all. And girls was ofcourse out of the question. To live this way in 19 years, and fret about it every day, and then find out that you actually can do something about it just freaked me out.

The paysite said:

5 minutes hot wrap and some stretching
40 minutes of jelqing
5 minutes hot wrap and some stretching

Exept for the first weeks, wich should be less jelqing. And this should be done seven days a week, or there would be NO reslults (it did actually say so, noone can do that 7 days a week for several months, so noone could demand their money back).

I also read at the old peforum before I started and reduced my schedule to 5 days a week, 40 minutes a day + warmup/warmdown.

My first jelqing session was just a couple of minutes. I remembered beeing rather nervous and that I had the problem that I was having full erection all the time. The day after that, I noticed that my veins were a little bit bigger, and it did look good. So I kept on gooing. I was jelqing for 2 months, 40 minutes, 5 days a week. I saw no improvement of size, but on the other hand it was just my impression, by some reasion I didn't check with a ruler. It was only the first day that I had the problem of having to hard erection while jelqing, the rest of the two months I did watch porn to keep it in 70/80% erection while jelqing. That's not very strange, I got used to the feeling and if I was nervous the first time, I was bored after a week. My erections in general was not effected.

Well, close to christmas the first "accident happens". I had read that you should not masturbate after a jelqingsession. Well, after 40 minutes it was hard not to. So I did that a few times, maybe 4 times in that two months and nothing strange happend. But the fift time changed my life. After the orgasm, I immediately felt that something was wrong. I had a fever-like feeling in my whole body and I had to go to bed. The day after that I woke up, feeling sick and I did not have erection. Before that day, I woke up without erection about 2 or 3 days a month in general, so I thought it was maybe one of these days. I thought it would be a good idea to not jelq that day sinde a was sick and the day after that I went on a holidaytrip with my father for 9 days and did not have the opportunity to jelq or masturubate at all. To my despair I noticed that I did not have ONE SINGLE erection in that 9 days. Before I had several spontanous erections a day (without even thinking about sex), and always in the morning when I woke up.

When I came home, I tried masturbating but I only had a sloppy erection. I waited one more week and it was the same. I started jelqing again (stupid, yes), because I was blineded by my goals. I kept on going for 4 more months. There were no improvements of erection in that time and I did not have one single erection in the morning when I woke up. After this 4 months I met a girl and we should have a one night stand. I thought that my erection would maybe be better with a girl but it didn't. We went on for hours but it was just sloppy. Not totally flaccid but about 80% of my earlier erections before the jelqing-accident. The day after that I stopped jelqing for good. I thought that it maybe would heal.

Today (I stopped in april 2000), it's still the same. Well, basicly, in a desperate attempt to make it right I used a vaacum-pump. I must have used way to much preassure because my veins got really big and blue. It's almost a year ago now, and they still look the same. It looks horrible and I hate it.

Another strange thing that came after the jelqing-accident was that my penis ALWAYS grows when I have to pee. It seems to increase the blood because it gets more length and girht. After I've peed it goes back to normal. I know that it's normal that a flaccid penis change in size every now and than but this is extreme. I can honestly not tell how big my flaccid is, because it's never the same. Sometimes it's about 2 incehs (like before I started), when I have to pee it's usually 3-4 inches.

It seems like I have messed things up really bad and I'll probably have to live with it for life. My message to you is:

- Never ever masturbate after a jelqingsession, even if it worked fine before.
- Be careful with the vacuumpump, it can make your thing look like crap for good. Use some kind of meter to see the preassure.

And please understand this: IT IS NOT PSYCOLOGICAL in my case. I always had erections in the morning and several "perfect" erections during the day before this jelqing-accident. Since than, I have never had a morningerction and NEVER had a spontanious erection at all. I have to use my hands and it takes a long while and it does not get near as hard as before. I eat good, use no drugs and I exercise (not PE ofcourse). I did never have problems with my erection before the accident and I've been up and down. Please, don't suggest psycological solutions, I have obviously broken something that controls the bloodflow.

I've learned something by this: The worst thing is not to miss something. The worst thing is to have the chance and than blow it for good.

SirJelqAlot
12-14-2002, 02:07 PM
im going to start by saying sorry. pe is a gift to most men, and a plague to the very few, you must have been one of the unfortunate. from looking at the jelqing routing you posted i see nothing wrong with it, infact, its an excellent routine. the ejactulation part may not have been so good, i dont like the idea of ejaculating after jelqing, its like using it too soon after your building it up. as a comparison, those of you who pump iron, imeadiatley after a workout do you go and find someone to arm wrestle? no, you rest and let the muscles grow.

but back to you idegard, have you been to see a doctor? have you had any extra stress on you since you started loosing errections? how old are you? any number of things could effect errection strength. you could be trapped in a vicous cycle, you dont think youl wake up with an errection, so you dont, you become depressed and the next day you dont think you will so you dont again, then it starts to effect not only moring errections, but sexual errections. have you considered viagra? many men (even on this forum) use it, just to give them a little ego boost to set them on their way.

i really think you should see a doctor, and e honest with them.

SJA

AverageSized
12-14-2002, 03:04 PM
I'm sorry to hear that.
But personally I've never had a healthier penis in my life, and I owe it to the wisdom I've gained in the past fews months reading this site and books and my workouts.

I only really Jeql, no hanging, pumping, etc...

Also did you do any PC Exercises? I did those before PE'n and a lot more now. And my erections are harder and fuller than ever, and even my girlfriend noticed it within the first few weeks of PE'n.

And like it's been said time and time again, pay attention to your dick, it'll tell you when something is wrong. No pain, No gain... only applies in the gym IMO :D

Tired and Stressed is ok.. but pain is not. When it comes below the belt. My 2 pennies.

And good luck with recovery... and work that PC Muscle, see a Urologist, etc...

Idegard
12-14-2002, 03:20 PM
1. I did some manual stretching, but not much. Yes, I did exercice the PC-muscle.
2. I'm positive that it's not psycological. This time was somehow the best time in my life because I had the chance to change my life (to the better, I thought). Maybe get a girlfreind, and so on. My problems came the day after the strange accident, and I'm 100% sure that's what caused my lack of erection.
3. I'm actually going to see an Urologist in a few weeks. Not because of the PE-thing, but to get a frenulum-surgery (it's to short in my opinion). I don't know if I dare to tell him about this PE-thing. I once sent a letter to a Urologist about this subject and he said that there is nothing such as jelqing and it's only in myhead - kind of saying that I'm insane. Not fun at all.

It would feel rather stupid to tell him if there are nothing to do about it anyway. I can't picture some kind of surgery to fix this, and than I'm sure that he'll tell me to go to a psycologist, but my problems isn't in my brain. It's a pitty that you can't turn back time, that would be a nice thing right now.

Ambitious
12-14-2002, 04:29 PM
Given Idegard's experience, maybe we should start developing a database of friendly/understanding/competent urologists who won't do the typical doctor routine of swaggering around in their ignorant arrogance. I dread going to doctors about any health matter whatsoever; it's very hard to talk to them or tell them that they're possibly making a mistake or don't fully understand the situation. I'm sure there are doctors that aren't like this; I just seldom run into one. Maybe just a thread on the topic would be a good first start.

Joshua
12-14-2002, 10:24 PM
Idegard, you may have a mild form of EDs (erectile dysfunction) over-doing PE can cause this to happen. Normally after stopping PE'ing this goes away, in your case this appears to have not happened; I recall reading a thread at 'Thunder's Place' where another person had a similar experience and started using viagra and after a few weeks everthing was back to normal with erections and he discontinued using the viagra. Good luck.

joshua

ps
my first post on this forum

Idegard
12-15-2002, 02:12 AM
Wow, is that really true? It's a shame that I live in a country where you have to have a doctors permission to by viagra. I'm 22 years old and I bet that (as a person wrote above) the ignorant doctors/urologists will send me to a psyciatrist instead of giving me viagra.

But thanks for the idea, it just gave me some hope!

twatteaser
12-15-2002, 04:42 AM
But wouldn't that fit more is the classification of erectile failure? ED is more like a old car that stalls when you stop at a light or try and take a turn. EF is more like it won't go at all. Stalls out and won't be willing to put in gear and go 2 feet down the drive way. Sorry for the car analogy.

HughJorgan9
12-15-2002, 07:14 AM
Idegard, type "viagra" in a search engine like Goggle or Yahoo...there are many sites that will sell viagra over the internet with you just filling out an online form...then put it on a credit card and the order is in the mail...I know, I've ordered some...try it..it will NOT make you horny or excited or whatever...all it does is help the function of an erection..and it sounds like that's what you need...


HJ

realpuffus
12-16-2002, 09:31 AM
Originally posted by Idegard
Wow, is that really true? It's a shame that I live in a country where you have to have a doctors permission to by viagra. I'm 22 years old and I bet that (as a person wrote above) the ignorant doctors/urologists will send me to a psyciatrist instead of giving me viagra.

But thanks for the idea, it just gave me some hope!


I'd try "Horny Goat Weed" and "Ginko Biloba" daily for a few weeks before viagra. You'll be amazed. Get the pinnacle brand with "Maca" in it or also add "Maca" to your daily intake (but it's hard to find seperate.) I also recommend cardio vascular work, which gets the blood pumping to all regions of the body which is necessary both for healing and for erection function.

puff

MDC
12-16-2002, 09:36 AM
Idegard,
You certainly should mention your erection difficulties when you see your doctor for your frenulum problem.

VRMan
12-16-2002, 12:26 PM
Idegard,

first off, let me say that I'm very sorry to hear about your problem. However, two things are puzzling me. First, what makes you so sure that it is not psychological? I am sure that many people who have a psychological problem affecting any physical performance would swear to god that it i not psychological. Not to be offensive, but I think you should not get caught in your self-made cage of theories and "proves". Frankly, you sound to me as if you are stuck in the situation, not accepting that there could indeed be a way out.

Secondly, what could have caused your state, if it has a physical cause? You describe a fever-like feeling during jelqing, and that you suddenly felt very ill. This sounds like an infection to me (I think I vaguely know the feeling you are describing). I have a hard time believing that this could be caused suddenly by a mere injury.

I do think you definitively should see a doctor. If you are too embarassed to tell him that you jelqed, then make up some sexual accident to the same effect.

HughJorgan9
12-16-2002, 12:56 PM
VRman, good point...could be an infection from many things...and I've had uerethritis (sp) and it will keep you from getting it up...it makes your dick burn though...

HJ

SuperStroker
12-16-2002, 02:53 PM
I had some ED problems, went to the doctor (didn't tell him about PE), and he gave me some samples of Viagra. I took it for a couple of weeks, and everything went back to normal. Of course, mine was all in my head.

I say, try out a new doctor, don't tell him about PE, but that you're having trouble with maintaining erections. Ask for a sample of Viagra, or even get a perscription. It might be the thing you need to get going again. It's worth a shot!

Insane_man
12-16-2002, 05:07 PM
I too used to masturbate after PE sessions, before I heard from someone here that it was bad. That was last week. I don't know if the masturbation has anything to do with it, but I have a few problems right now; I may have over-done my routine last week, and I changed to an overhand Jelq last week as well. Anyways, my problems are that I have an intermittent pain in my base, not extreme, but uncomfortable; I have also notice a very small indentation directly behind my head (probably 3mm width x 5mm length), it shows up only during erection. I'm pretty sure that the pain at my base is a result of my overhand Jelq; for the first while I did light underhand Jelqs, and later worked up to a firm grip. but when I switched to overhand, I did full force, full length sessions right off the bat (The overhand grip seems to put more stress on the base, as it is more accessable in this position). I think that the indentation may have been caused by my stretching routine which I stepped up last week. You see, I used a sloppy grip in stetching, probably applying a non-uniform amount of force to various parts.

Another possible culprit for my base pain may be the DLD blasters. I cannot exactly pinpoint the source of my pain, it may be in the veins, and I know that a few people have complained about stretching the dorsal vein too much during this exercise.
This brings up a question: what does it mean to have thrombosed a vein, and is the damage from it permanent? I have heard people talk about this as if it were a permanent condition, so if I have done this, well that would really suck.

Another thing I have noticed is that the top of my shaft, that it the part parallel to the ground seems very flat, starting at the 2-2.5 inch point, and continuing down the shaft, that is, during erection. I never really noticed this before, but it's entirely possible that it was like this before. Comments?

Well that's about it for my problems, I think that I am going to quit DLD blasters, except for the first part, the upward stretch, which usually feels good. I am also going to quit PE until after christmas, as I don't want to aggravate my problems.

Anyways, I hope that you can somehow fix your situation, and I would appreciate any comments on mine.

3000gt
12-16-2002, 11:21 PM
I'm sorry If this offends you, I don't mean to, but masterbating after jelqing cannot cause ed. The reason many people say not to ejaculate after PEing is because your penis shrinks afterwards. The theory is that the longer your penis stays enlarged the better, not that it is dangerous to ejaculate. You may have injured your penis by over doing your jelqing, but masterbating did not cause your problem. I thought I hurt my penis one time and had difficulty getting an erection for a few days, but after I got hard again the problem went away. In any case, you should see a doctor. He will most likely be able to help.

Hope you get better soon.

3000GT

bigbutnottoo
12-17-2002, 04:06 AM
The thing I don't understand is:
You can go to a urologist for a frenulum surgery, but you are too embarassed to bring up your ED?

And what is a "short frenulum'?

Idegard
12-19-2002, 04:27 AM
Ok, thanks alot for all comments. I'm actually more confused right now, but I'll guess that I'll ask the doctor.

Orgazmo
12-19-2002, 12:11 PM
I feel for you, and it is not my intention to be rude but....get off your ass right now and go to a doctor, tell him EXACTLY what happened (including the pumping). You may have damaged a blood vessle/nerve/something else. "my veins got really big and blue", this is troubling also, have you ever cut off circulation to a part of your body? The veins get darker and engorged. This may also indicate that there is vascular damage which would also explain your weak erections.

All of our opinions combined cant equal the care of a qualified doctor.

PEanist
12-19-2002, 03:07 PM
You should certainly tell your doctor about it. The feverish thing seems odd. Ejaculating after jelqing won't make you sick the next day. We usually say don't do it because it will shorten the time you're "pumped" or, my angle, it will take some hormones down while you want them to help you grow. But it is in NO WAY a safety precaution. That really does sound like an infection.

I once had a huge soreness in my dick, but only when I urinated and for a few minutes after. I drank some cranberry juice and it was gone. That was probably a minor bladder infection.

So it is possible for infection symptoms to be triggered by some action in the penis area.

Talk to a doc. The Viagra jumpstart idea sounds good, but make sure you get checked out for anything infection-like and list all your symptoms. That could be a cause or at least help your doc to find a strategy for helping you.


Good luck

PEanist