Sex vs masturbation

[6wants7]

I'm as inexperienced as one can be when it comes to sexual contact with women (yup, 21 and still a virgin..) Most of the time, when jerking off I can take very little stimulation before comming (or stopping so I don't come) Of course I'm really concerned about what will happen when I get a girl.. Will it be even worse? (That will be about one and a half second of intercourse) I have a hope, though.. Since I have learned to know my body well, I know exactly where to touch, how fast etc to get the most pleasure out of it and therefore come really quick too. But maybe being inside a girl won't put as much stress on these exact spots and therefore taking longer time to make me come.

So, for the more experienced guys here: How is it really? Do you come even faster/about the same from sex as from masturbation? Or is my little theory not so stupid? (I hope so, or else I'm in trouble..)

[luvdadus]

If you've never been with a woman before you'll prpbably blow the load before she sees your dick. Experience is very important and it takes time and an understanding partner.

[AlexW]

I agree with Luvadus. My first time I was so excited; I entered my girl and boom fireworks. Four strokes tops and it was all over. But I got some and I felt like the TIME man of the year. Oh the memories! The touch, the smell, the warmth, and oh the wetness; Its so much better than masturbating. Your going to be fine buddy, with experience she going to call you a stud.


Alex

[6wants7]

Oh, well.. She hopefully won't expect the world, anyway..

Originally posted by AlexW
Oh the memories! The touch, the smell, the warmth, and oh the wetness; Its so much better than masturbating. [/B]

Yeah, I'm sure.. I'm also afraid that I'm gonna be a little disappointed, after all I don't know what the inside of a girl feels like and maybe it's not how I think it is..

I downloaded an e-book on kazaa that's called:

How to make love all night (and drive a woman wild)
Male multiple orgasm and other secrets of prolonged lovemaking
By Barbara Keesling, Ph.D

I believe this book is well known. It has a bunch of excersises, where the first ones of course are kegels. Think I'm gonnna try it out.

[luvdadus]

I got that book and use modified versions of some of the exercises. Get your partner in on the exercises and you are in for a lot of fun.

[6wants7]

Fortunately for me, there's a solo exercise for every couple exercise..

So have you noticed any of the promised results yet? :-)

[luvdadus]

Yeah, I basically can hold off as long as I want. However my wife is a quick cummer so Sex is rarely longer than 20 min.

[Biguli]

Don't put so much thought into it. If you know you can cum really fast if you hit the right buttons, make sure you know how to hit the right buttons to prolong your jackin'. Slow your jackin role. Get into your own head and explore and enjoy your own sexuality. All you're thinking about is how fast you're gonna cum.

You should be thinking about how good being inside a woman is going to feel. How you want to stay in there as loooong as possible. Use all your imagination while jacking off pretending you're inside her. Imagine her movements; her pelvic tilts and thrusts as she seeks to guide you into her secret spots. Now you have to jack your dick to simulate her movements. If you're unfamiliar check out some SOFT porn, or some female oriented porn. You know the kind with the soft music and lighting with gentle caressing foreplay to see how the women move. You can find it on Kazaa, too. Use those movements on yourself. See how long you can last. This is how I learned to last with women before I was actually with one.

[Gandolf]

I am able to make myself come in like 1 min if I want or I can last as long as I want when masturbating. I do it quite frequently. First time I had sex (1.5 years ago, I was 17), I didnt come at all. This actually went on for months before I came inside her. So it'll depend. You might blow your load really soon, or you might be able to hold off for a long time, just make sure to tell her you are a virgin and she will definately understand.

[mayhem]

I was disapointed when i first entered the slippery wet love cave known as "vagina." Wearing a condom desensitizes you quite a bit. Also the girl i was boning on was fairly worn in down there. Needless to say the lack of friction caused a two hour delay in my orgasm. Just take it easy your first time man. Not every guy comes fast inside a woman. The next girl i had sex with made me so nervous(she was incredibly gorgeous) that i again held off for over an hour.